Forks...

I live in a world where my job has been over glamorized. Each year we watch as thousands upon thousands of people wait hours in lines and massive stadiums to spend a few seconds singing in front of someone else in hopes that they would ultimately be told that they are the next american idol. Most of these people come believing that it is actually possible, some based on the encouragement of some very untruthful friends or relatives but others just based on pure vanity. While talking with my husband the other day he pointed out how the winner of american idol always says something extremely trite like "If you really want it this proves that dreams come true!!!" (imagine the confetti falling and the tears and the awestruck smile) The problem with that statement is that there are 100,000 other people this year that thought that very same thing and were sent home in tears, disbelief and anger. I have spent a lot of time pondering this. How can these people possibly believe they can win? The odds are so unbelievably daunting and so many of them don't sing outside of the shower or family functions. Why do they think they deserve it? Why do they want it? I know the want part...Fame, money, popularity, security, self worth, etc etc. Well imagine if you could have those things without winning american idol. I was thinking about this the other day while watching my husband and daughter sit side by side eating dinner. My daughter has her own plate and toddler size fork while my husband is eating off of his plate using an adult size fork. My daughter (named Scarlett, nicknamed Red) kept staring at the food falling off of her fork because of her inability to use the fork well and would then look at my husband scooping up big bites, each one making it into his mouth without a drop falling from his fork. Finally she started saying "I want dada's fork! No Scarlett's fork! I need dada's fork!" Finally Jonathan handed over his fork to her and she then smiled and attempted to eat her dinner with dada's fork...the better one. As you can imagine her eating became even sloppier because now she had a fork that was way too big for her tiny hands and was, at this point, just making dinner flat out dangerous. Then...there they were, her eyes were now upon my fork. Setting aside her father's fork she started yelling "I NEED mama's fork!!!" Now, wanting to see the outcome of this fork trading, I handed over my fork a little bit saddened. I knew the outcome. She wasn't going to get what she wanted by using my fork either. There was food being flung everywhere except her mouth and she is finally frustrated and giving up on dinner all together. I know what she was thinking. I saw myself in her actions. She thought that the flaw of the eating was in her fork and not her fork wielding ability. She thought she could grab a fork from her father or I because ours clearly "work" and it would be the same for her but she was wrong. Jonathan and I can use forks because we learned and developed the hand eye coordination and muscle strength to be able to be brilliant fork eaters. She being a new human being and new fork user has not had time to develop any of these things and will only learn, by time and effort, using the utensil that is sized for her. She needs to keep her eyes off of the person to her right or left and keep it focused on her own task and work at it! (wait am I still talking about my daughter or myself...I forget...) So what are the forks I am talking about? They are our true giftings. The things we should be doing and spending our time getting better at and ultimately using for the glory of our Savior, whether the giftings are volleyball playing, engineering, designing, nursing, teaching, child-rearing, singing, writing, landscaping, banking, etc. What is the fork you have been given? I thought, when I was growing up, that I would be a neonatologist (a doctor that works with babies). I wanted so badly to become one and was making sure I had the grades and schooling I needed to get me into the right college in order to pursue that job. How incredibly bad I would have been at that job. Ugh! Thank goodness I didn't become so singularly, bull-headedly set on that career because there is no way (with my emotional decision making) that I could've been able to do that job very well and man it would've been a lot of money in schooling down the drain to realize that. So what are you supposed to be doing and what are the things you are chasing after that you have no business chasing? Are you the tone deaf/bad rhythm 28 year old finding yourself standing in line to audition for this years american idol? Please get out of line, pick up your toddler sized fork, and put in the work becoming great at the thing God has given you to do. You will then find your wealth, stability, security, popularity, etc. when you "quit being so full of [yourself} and so obsessed with money, which is here today and gone tomorrow....go after God, who piles on all the riches we could ever manage—do good, be rich in helping others, be extravagantly generous. If [you] do that, [you'll] build a treasury that will last, gaining life that is truly life." (1 Timothy 6:17-19) Let's have lives that are truly lives...


Posted on October 11, 2010 and filed under Anything and Everything.